Loss of Love : Five Ways to Be Strong

The first fiercest pain generally one has to bear is the failure of love. It shows the real pain-in-the-ass world in its ugliest form and then drags one to its darkest pit, where the memories wreak havoc to the body and soul, and when one crawls up to the light, one never is the same. It is that lesson of our life, which belittles us, shames us, hates us and then transforms us like nothing before, and perhaps nothing after.

The process is gruesome. No gory violence can match with what is done by the blood-thirsting creepy brain cells during the process. They can tell one to seek revenge or do something disturbing, they can take one to the edge and push one to do something un-thinkable or they can smother one with depression.

I remember me. And my friends. And what we did after rejection. I had this roomie – a happy go guy who turned into a woman-hater after what he termed as the worst break-up of history. I had this friend, who wanted to strangle his ex-girlfriend with laptop cable. I knew this sweet girl, who bought a ticket to stop her ex-boyfriend’s marriage. And I cried for a month and drank gallons of beers and watched tons of sad movies after I found the girl I liked and wrote poems, actually was a slut.

I know everybody has a story to tell, and most of us share that pain-in-ass. Common pain. But some of us handled it better and took lessons from it and transformed into stronger persons, while others lost something precious in that process. Love is a battlefield. And like in every fucking war, one can always come back stronger and stronger, even if one is defeated.

Here are five recipes you can follow if you want to come back stronger.

1. Detach yourself for a moment, and try to analyze ‘what went wrong’? Try to be broader. A single mistake never ends a relationship. Be fair to yourself. Your ex or crush could be hunk or cute or popular, but trust this, even they have weird stinking traits. And if you find you’re to be responsible, try to avoid that next time.

2. You’re no more a child. If you know that Santa Claus is not real, then you must realize that so is soul-mate. If you’re not that person who takes pleasure from being sad, rip the fairy-tale surrounding you and evolve. Don’t jump into lots of dates or online chatting immediately, but take some time and appreciate your grown-up situation, even its fucked up. There’re lot of things to catch up.

3. Take the process as a learning period. As you grow you see the fights between your parents and neighbors. You see, no relationship is perfect. You can survive this break-up, because now you know how to build a relationship castle better and stronger.

4. Concentrate on making friends and have a good hobby, which are kind of investment for having a good relationship. Study says, successful relations mostly are built among friends and in an environment, where you look passionate.

5. Be a good human. No matter what is your experience from recent break-up or rejection, refrain from judging. That’s an easy trap. If you want to win the battle, trust this – good always prevails. Somebody you deserve is on the way.